Caregiver deserves a break (Annie’s Mailbox)
Dear Annie: I am 63, and I help daily with my 94-year-old mother, who lives by herself. I run errands, and I keep her yard nice. I have a brother and sister who live out of state. They come back to visit from time to time. When they do visit, they expect me to entertain them. I feel that because they are staying with her, it is my time to take a break. They don’t seem to realize the pressures I go through every day, when I wonder whether she will answer the door or I will find her on the floor. Am I being unreasonable to be able to “escape” mentally and physically for a couple of days whenever it is convenient for them to “escape” their out-of-state lives and visit?
–Needing a break in Pensacola
Dear Needing a Break: It is absolutely reasonable – and smart – that you want some time alone and away from the stresses of caretaking. To properly take care of anyone, you first need to take care of yourself. Look into hiring some professional help. Many insurances, including Medicare and Medicaid, include some form of hospice coverage. Visit http://hospicefoundation.org. As for your siblings, how they want to treat our mother is their choice.
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